I lost a six-figure job because I did not have an identity blueprint.

I worked as a cybersecurity analyst. I had the skills, the education, and the qualifications. I had prayed for the job and fasted for the opportunity. From the outside, everything looked aligned.

Internally, I did not believe I was worthy of the space I had entered.

Once I stepped into that environment, I started telling myself a quiet story. That I did not really belong. That I needed to stay small. That drawing attention to myself was risky. That at any moment, someone would realize I was not enough.

That story shaped how I showed up.

I stopped connecting with people. I stayed in my head instead of being present. I overthought decisions that once felt simple. I trusted myself less and less. I pulled back instead of leaning into relationships.

From the outside, it looked like disengagement.
From the inside, it felt like fear, self doubt, and constantly watching myself instead of being in the moment.

I did not lose that job because I lacked ability.
I lost it because my identity did not know how to hold the level I had entered.

When responsibility increased, my nervous system shifted into protection. I became guarded. More internal. Less relational. Less grounded. And when you are not grounded, you cannot perform clearly. You cannot collaborate well. You cannot stay connected.

What people often call imposter syndrome is not pretending to be something you are not. It is being internally disconnected from who you actually are when pressure increases.

This is not a motivation problem.
It is an identity and nervous system problem.

I share this because many people experience the same thing in different ways.

Some pray for a relationship. Some pray for a job, a promotion, or a new season. And when it arrives, instead of confidence, they feel exposed. Instead of peace, they feel pressure.

They begin to disconnect. They stop trusting themselves. They pull back emotionally. They self eject before anyone asks them to leave.

Not because they are unqualified.
But because their identity and nervous system were never prepared to hold what showed up.

Identity Blueprint exists for this reason.

It is about understanding how you relate to yourself when things start to matter. Why confidence disappears under responsibility. Why you disconnect instead of staying present. Why you keep starting over with yourself even after progress.

This work is not about fixing you or pushing you harder. It is about restoring internal stability so you can stay grounded, connected, and present in the life you are already living.

That is the work I do now.

I work with women who feel fragmented inside and are tired of starting over with themselves. Women who know they are capable but do not trust themselves to stay steady. Women who prayed for opportunities and then felt like imposters once they arrived.

I help you rebuild identity and nervous system support so you can show up present, relational, and confident without disappearing.

If you are here and something in this feels familiar, there is nothing wrong with you.

You do not need more motivation.
You need identity support that allows you to stay grounded in the life you prayed for.

That is the work I am here to do.

Where to go from here

If you feel ready for support, I offer coaching for women who want to stop losing themselves and learn how to stay grounded, present, and steady in their lives.

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For women ready for identity support and guidance.

If you are not ready for coaching yet, you can begin with I Matter, a daily identity anchor designed to help you reconnect to yourself gently.

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